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Transitioning baby from co-sleeping to crib: It was easier than we thought! (no-cry)

Feb 10, 2014Dawn

{Please note: This is not meant to be a persuasive article about whether or not you should co-sleep. I believe that when it comes to all things parenting (breastfeeding, bottle feeding, vaccinations, co-sleeping, organic baby food, slings, carseats—whatever!) that we need to make our own decision about what we feel is best for our babies…that is our only responsibility…our own baby— not everyone else’s :) This is just our story about why we decided to co-sleep (after we swore we wouldn’t!) and how we transitioned our babies out of our bed. }

Like many first time parents, when my husband and I were pregnant with our first, we SWORE that no baby, toddler or child would ever enter our bed. We equated good parenting with a kid-less bed and knew all too well the horror stories of nights of sleep ruined by flailing arms and legs.

Then our oldest was born.

How we easily transition each of our babies from co-sleeping to their own crib. We've successfully done this 4 times anywhere between 1 year old and 2 and a half. This is a no-cry method for transitioning babies and toddlers! #no #cry #nocry #transition #baby #toddler #crib #bedWhy we ended up co-sleeping

She was colicky…except worse, because colic usually dissipates around 4 months and she kept crying for a good 8 months. The only reprieve was at night…I quickly found that if she was snuggled in next to me in bed she would sleep…like a baby. She would nurse a few times throughout the night and quickly settle back into sleep. It was like she was a different baby.

At first I worried about her safety (although a “co-sleeper” like this helps with that: Arm’s Reach Co-Sleeper Bedside Bassinet –this is the one we have and I LOVE it!) and of course I worried about WHAT OTHER PEOPLE WOULD THINK!

But, I was still working full-time and was so desperate to sleep, I no longer cared.

And  it wasn’t long until I really began to appreciate that I never had to get up or worry about getting her back to sleep…after only a few nights we had a routine established…for me, it felt very natural. I seemed to always have this awareness of where she was. And, I perfected the straight arm maneuver to keep my husband from getting close to her (He VERY clearly did not have the same awareness! ;)

What surprised me

What I didn’t expect to find, was that I would really enjoy having her in bed with us. I loved the snuggle time and knew that it was just for a season…soon she would be older and it would be different. So instead of it being an inconvenience, like I would have originally imagined it, it became a sweet time of connection for us.

Changing seasons

Around one year of age, my husband and I decided that it was time to transition our baby out of our bed. I was on board, she was MUCH MORE active during the night now and we found out that we were expecting again. (I know some families decide to co-sleep longer and others love having two babes in bed with them, this was just what we decided :)

However, I really thought it was going to be nearly impossible to get her out and imagined long sleepless nights battling her desire to get back in our bed. She was still waking to nurse at least once during the night (although, I knew by this age she no longer needed it, it was just a habit and comfort) and rarely napped in her crib. We did not have much going for us.


Well that was easy!

So one night, just after her first birthday, I went to a women’s event at church that went past nine. My husband was going to have to put her to sleep which would be unusual, at this point I was still nursing her to sleep at night (again, nothing going for us!).

When I came home I looked around for the baby. I expected her to be asleep on him or in our bed. Nope, she was sound asleep in her crib. He had given her a bottle, bounced her for a few minutes, and then laid her down in her crib, still awake but drowsy. Huh? Like in the books!?! And she went for that!?!

She didn’t go to sleep right away on her own, but he rubbed her back until she fell asleep (she preferred to sleep on her tummy by this point).

I couldn’t believe it.

We hadn’t discussed sleep training methods…cry it out, no cry…we just agreed to take it one night at a time, and that night we were going to try really hard to stick with it and we would take turns getting up with her.

So when she woke around midnight, I got up, picked her up until she stopped crying, and then laid her back down on her tummy and rubbed her back until she fell back to sleep (and it worked!!!). Around three o’clock my husband got up and did the same thing. And then she slept until six when she normally was awakened to go to day care.

And we did this the next couple of nights. Nights two and three were more difficult. The excitement had worn off and for me, it was difficult not to just grab her and bring her in bed with us. But it paid off, and after three nights she was only waking once during the night.


As much as I loved co-sleeping, and wouldn’t have done it any other way…her sleeping had been a stressor for me. Many nights, I would lay down in bed with her to nurse her to sleep and I would fall asleep, too. My husband didn’t appreciate that. Plus, at one year, we had NEVER left her with anyone else over night…I didn’t think it was fair to leave a baby that basically relied on me as her own personal sleep aid.

But, within three nights of our new sleep routine, she was going to sleep on her own and would only wake once during the night. We wouldn’t even lift her out of the crib, we’d lay her back down and rub her back, and she’d go back to sleep.

I really couldn’t believe how easy it was.

We have three children now, and successfully transitioned our second one out this same way. (We actually transitioned our second out twice, at one year, and 18mo. My husband and I were living at a distance for a few months while we relocated and I let her back into our bed, although, I’m happy to report that this same method worked when she was older, too!)

A few tips for success:

1) Husband (or significant other) led sleep transitioning: Now at the time, my husband wasn’t exactly “Mr. Mom.” He had been working really long hours so I took on the brunt of our baby’s physical needs, including sleeping. However, we quickly noticed that when my husband put her down to sleep for the night or got up with her in the middle of the night, that she went back to sleep much quicker. So, if there is someone else in your household who could assist with this process, it could be helpful.

2) Keep the crib in your room: During our transition we just happened to have our daughter’s crib in our bedroom (even though it had never been used!) because we were remodeling. However, this turned out to be really helpful. We were more likely to stick with our plan if we didn’t have to get up and go all the way down the hall to her room, and then stand outside the door and make sure she was back asleep before returning to our room. It worked great and we’ve kept all of our babies in our room until around 18 months now.

3) Respond quickly: Unlike other methods of sleep training that suggest waiting 15 minutes to respond when they stir at night (although we did use the waiting method later on, once they had adjusted to their crib at night and for nap times), I felt that I should let her know right away that we were still there. Since she was going from a shared bed, where she could reach out and touch us any time, I wanted her to know that we were still close by and ready to respond to her needs. So as soon as I would hear her start to wake, I would get up and rub her back and “shhh” her…most often she settled right back in before really waking or standing up. We did this two or three times the first couple nights, but after that she was only waking once per night.

4) Consistency is king: As with all things parenting, consistency was the key to our success. Oh, of course there were a couple nights where she ended up back in bed with us over the first month (usually around 4:30 in the morning–so if you mess up, don’t worry, you can get back on track!), but 95% of the time we were consistent with keeping her in her own bed and it really paid off. I was glad my husband had taken an interest in it, because I don’t know that I could have done it on my own. At 2:00 in the morning, when it feels like you have been woken up in the dead bottom of a sleep cycle,  you aren’t thinking as logically, you are just thinking about how to get back to sleep as quickly as possible!

5) Noise machine: Somewhere along the line we had acquired a noise machine that had lullabies and white noise sounds. Because our living room was just outside the bedroom, we started playing the lullabies when we put her down at night so that we wouldn’t have to tip toe around until we knew she was asleep. This also became a comforting sleep cue for her when we traveled, and sometimes at night if she had trouble settling back in, we would play it. Now, we use the white noise setting when we put any of the kids down for naps or bedtime. It seems to be a comforting sound to them. (This is the one we use now and really like it: Munchkin Sound Machinedon’t get this one: The First Years Sound Machine –we’ve had two and both times the chord stopped working.)

6) Pick the right time: Starting a new routine might best be done on a Friday night, heading into a weekend when you have no evening plans. Much like potty training, we’ve found that dedicating a few days to this is really helpful. Also, choose a time when you don’t have other things placing large demands on your time or energy. Going back to school, working long hours, caring for a loved one…these all require massive amounts of emotional energy…adding new sleep routines into the mix may not be the best idea.

Nap Time

I also learned a lot from my first to my third when it came to nap time. Our third was taking 3-two hour naps a day from 4-10 months and now at a year takes 2-two hour naps a day. This article was really helpful for getting him to nap well and knowing when he should be hungry and when he is probably just tired. While we didn’t subscribe to her principals for night-time sleep because we had decided to co-sleep, it worked great for naps (in his own crib :)!

And in the end, do what is right for YOU.

I used to be embarrassed when other moms found out that we co-slept, until I started finding that there are a good portion of others who do it, too–we just don’t like to talk about it! But now we’re living proof that you can enjoy co-sleeping with your baby, AND have them nap well, AND transition them out before they are of driving age ;)

Remember, there are no hard and fast rules when it comes to sleeping and co-sleeping (as long as you are doing it safely). In all of these parenting decisions, I believe that the most important thing that we can do is love our children, affirm them, and teach them how to be respectful and responsible. The rest? Well you could find reputable scientific data to support either side…trust your intuition, and do what is best for you and your baby.


Update: Tips After Transitioning Babies 3 & 4

Its been a few years since I originally wrote this post and I wanted to update it based on a few things that we did differently with our last two babies. You can read about it here!

You may also find this helpful if you have older kids, too4 Moms Share: How we get our kids to bed in 15 minutes or less each night (and keep them there!)

Do you have any tips for success? Or any questions? Please share below!


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Comments (53)

  • Sarah

    Oct 25, 2017 at 6:41 pm

    I think that co-sleeping is wonderful! But we can’t sleep with our kids forever. I shared my bed with my baby girl for the first 9 months – as long as I was breastfeeding. When she turned 9 months she didn’t want to eat my milk anymore and I decided that it’s the best time to teach her to fall asleep on her own in her crib. I’ve found some info about Susan Urban’s short ebook “How to teach a baby to fall asleep alone” ( ). The guide leads you step by step so I knew exactly what to do and how to do it . No CIO and it worked extremely well! It took me 4 days to make her fall asleep on her own. Only 4 days after 9 months of co-sleeping – WOW! So co-sleeping YES but then sleep training YES YES YES :)

    1. Meghan

      Oct 31, 2017 at 5:47 pm

      Love this short guide. I started the method from Urban’s guide 5 days ago and my son is already able to fall asleep alone in his own crib after 8 long months of co-sleeping. And I thought we will have to sleep together for ages :) amazing!

    2. Melinda

      Nov 2, 2017 at 2:52 pm

      I saw other recommendation in the internet of Susan Urban’s guide about sleep training and after reading your comment I gave it a try and it was the best decision! My son was a terrible sleeper so I used to rock him to sleep since he was born. After 8 months of rocking and co-sleeping I was just too tired to continue. ‘How to teach a baby to fall asleep alone’ guide made my son sleep in his crib in just 3 days without any drama! i was so scared of sleep training but now I know it’s not that bad :) in fact it was less tears than I thought it would be :)

    3. Beverly

      Nov 25, 2017 at 3:13 pm

      So glad I bought this! Wish I had read it sooner. If you’re doubting this guide come meet my baby. He’s so happy, sleeps so well on his own and it’s all the techniques in this book! Love it! I recommend it to all of my expecting friends and family!

  • Rory S.

    Feb 24, 2017 at 6:53 pm

    Thank you so much for this article!! Literally a God send! Our son is 8 mo. Old and we’ve been co-sleeping pretty much the whole time, it made me feel so much better and I’m with you on the “not having much going for you”. Lol He has never liked ref pacifier so i joke that I am a human one! lol But, my husband and I have been talking about transitioning him into his own bed so we have our space but I don’t want him to cry it out, we will try this and see if it helps! Regardless it’s nice to know you’re not alone! ?

  • Lindsay Cunningham

    Jan 8, 2017 at 4:00 pm

    Wait. Did I write this?? My daughter just turned 6 months yesterday. We’ve been cosleeping since day 1 bc she would only sleep latched on. 6 months later, not much has changed. I’ve developed back problems bc of how I have to sleep for her to have easy access to nurse and to keep her safe in bed from my husband and 2 dogs who jump up and down all night. She won’t nap without me either. I’m sooo ready to have some freedom (and my husband) back. I feel stuck!! If I try to slip away when she’s asleep, she immediately wakes and starts looking around for me and / or cries until I come back. Ugh! I’ve tried the rubbing / patting / shushing… nada. I need a baby sleep whisperer to come to my rescue asap! Thank you for this article, though. Nice to know I’m not alone. :)

    1. Melissa S.

      Jan 10, 2017 at 10:10 pm

      I am experiencing the same with my 7 month old. We have been co-sleeping from day 1 too mainly because of his acid reflux and the fact that he wouldn’t sleep without us holding or rocking him. Co-sleeping was the only thing that worked. We have started trying the modified CIO method (checking in at different intervals) to transition him into his crib. It worked a little bit however with the holidays we got side-tracked and he wakes up multiple times in the night to nurse. About to start again and be consistent this time. Hope you find a method that works for you. I’d love to hear it.

  • Alisia Doeing

    Dec 30, 2016 at 7:06 pm

    Dawn, this article is fantastic and just what I needed to read! It’s almost as if I could have written the beginning, myself. It feels so good to know that there are others “out there” like me!! My daughter is 16 months and has never slept anywhere other than in our bed. I’m still nursing and she wakes up multiple times throughout the night, just to latch on, and then falls back to sleep. I know she doesny NEED milk throughout the night, anymore. Well, she is bigger now and with the constant disruption throughout the night, I’m exhausted! A few months ago, we put her crib in our room, took down one of the side rails and butted it up to our bed, so that she was still with us, but in her own space! I’m usually able to nurse her to sleep, so I would try to lay her down in her crib after she fell asleep; she would immediately wake up and grab onto me. That was a little bit ago, so I’m at it again. Today for her nap, I got in her crib with her, fed her, she fell asleep and I crawled out. She’s been sleeping alone for almost an hour (she even flipped from her back to belly). I’m going to try this way tonight too, but I’m afraid that she’s going to wake up, like she does every night, and want to nurse. Ill try the “shhh” thing and rub her back to see if that works. Anyway, I love this article and am thankful that you put it out there for people like me!!!

  • Elizabeth

    Jul 6, 2016 at 4:53 am

    I’m trying to transition my 20 month old right now. My husband is a truck driver so he isn’t here to help. We been cosleeping since the day he was born and also had his older brother in our bed too. I transition my 3 year old just a couple months ago! It was ok but this baby is a nightmare! Lol he will not sleep in his crib. He could be dead asleep and I’ll move him to his crib but he will wake up! He will sleep all night in my bed and not cry once. He likes to hold my hair. I also just stopped breastfeeding home a couple months ago as well. I tried just about every method there is. He just is not having it at all. What would you do? He eats dinner at 5, baths at 6 brush teeth at 6:30 and I start the wind down process at 7:30 since their witch hour is 7.

    1. clamel

      Dec 9, 2017 at 5:12 am

      I’m in the same boat with my 16 month old. You would think I was doing CIO with him wailing as though he’s dying. This is going on while he’s being touched, back rubbed etc. and not left alone. Absolutely no technique works. He scratches my face and pulls my hair to wake me up at rediculously early hours so it was time to move him out of the bed :). He just has a fierce temperament and there’s very little we can do about it.

  • Brooke

    Jun 26, 2016 at 5:41 pm

    This has made me feel so much better about co-sleeping with my daughter. She is almost 8mos and our first. My story feels a lot like yours, in that we don’t “have a lot going for us” – I still feed her to sleep, she rarely naps in her crib all that; we were also totally against her sleeping with us, until I realized it was so much easier to have her with me to feed her in the middle of the night. I’ve been stressing on if we have gone too long co-sleeping and finding it hard to have her crying it out if you will (plus cuddling with her is so comforting now). Thanks for sharing!

    1. Krystal

      Nov 30, 2016 at 5:35 am

      Brooke, my daughter is 13 months, I still nurse her to sleep and awake, as well as going into naps and any other time she needs a little mommy time. She is our first and although everyone has their opinions, I tell them I don’t care to hear their opinion (when they decide to start shaming me or telling me she is going to be too clingy and needy) I’ve watched several friends co-sleep and nurse from 1-3 years and their children are well rounded, well behaved, and independent! I look at it as if I’m filling her emotional tank so she is confident later on when she does start spending the night with others or goingplaces without me. I’ve had a couple nights away where hubby has had to get her down himself and she does great. Don’t worry about the timeline you are on. Trust your intuition and read your little ones cues and you guys will be just fine no matter how long you nurse her to sleep or she sleeps in your bed. They are only little once!

  • Brandi

    Jun 18, 2016 at 6:02 pm

    Reading this article has given me some hope for starting the transition process with my 9 month old son! We are moving to a new house and I want him to be in his room full time at the new place. I feel like your journey with co-sleeping is the same as mine with the waking up to nurse and nursing to sleep…so thank you for writing such a great article and giving me a new found hope!!

  • Marla

    May 16, 2016 at 7:45 am

    I don’t understand how having a husband is one of the tips. What about widowed, divorced, and single parents. They need to transition their kids too.

    1. Dawn


      May 29, 2016 at 11:50 am

      I’m sorry Marla, that tip wasn’t in anyway meant to be offensive, or exclusive, I was just sharing our experience, but I understand now how it could appear, I’ll adjust the text, I greatly appreciate your input.

      1. marlasux

        Jul 8, 2016 at 12:59 am

        no dawn, marla is a twat!

        1. Jessica Saenz

          Aug 9, 2016 at 9:05 pm

          People are dumb! Dawn is trying to be non-judgemental in the whole article and this one insignificant this just had to “offend” someone LOL.

  • Camille

    Feb 21, 2016 at 5:28 pm

    I’m so happy reading your article plus all the comments. I am also cosleeping my daughter which is 4 months now. We find it easier for us if she is on our bed. Like the others she only sleeps on her crib only on nap time but she wakes up quickly.( maybe she is not used to on the mattress) my mother in law and our pedia doctor keeps on telling us that she should sleep on her own crib. But for me I’m a first time mom I just want to enjoy every moment with my daughter. I’m also breastfeeding so I don’t need to wait her cry just to feed her. I’m happy and very comfortable with her sleeping with us she sleep in her crib eventually it maybe hard transition or not but for now I just want to cherish every moment with her. Time flies next thing you know she’s already going to school.

  • Tara

    Jan 31, 2016 at 9:02 pm

    At what point did you stop giving the bottle during the night? My one year old cosleeps and wakes up about once a night for a bottle now. I would like to transition him to the crib. I started out doing what you did but gave up the second night. I’m glad to know the second and third night were the hardest. I also think I will have my husband help. We will give it another try. Just not sure when to not give him the bottle. It would be great to get him to sleep through the night. Like you, he was used to nursing and now that we are done nursing he’s transitioned to wanting the bottle.

    1. Dawn


      Feb 1, 2016 at 7:59 pm

      This is a really good question, I’ve actually been meaning to write a follow-up post. Our first two were fine without bottles during the night so it was never an issue until our third, he would wake up at least once during the night and it was harder to get him to go back to sleep on his own…of course, if you handed him a bottle, he was fine and settled right back in…and at this point, with him being our third, it was easiest to give him the bottle in the middle of the night and get back into my warm bed. I even started making up a bottle with three ounces of water and one ounce of apple juice to keep by my bed so I didn’t even have to go to the kitchen, it was ready to go! He eventually out grew this around two and slept through the night on his own. Honestly, had I been willing to invest a few nights into it, I know he would have been fine without the middle of the night bottle, but at the time it didn’t bother me that much :) BLESSINGS on this journey, I know it isn’t easy, and every baby is just a little bit different, but it IS worth it! :)

  • Andri

    Dec 10, 2015 at 3:50 am

    I really enjoyed this read!!! As my husband works away and i work shifts so it was always just easier for her to sleep with me in the bed. But now that she is almost a year and we are finally starting a routine as a family as no working away no shifts a normal life… We will definitely use your tips.. Thank you!

  • Karissa Wesley

    Dec 9, 2015 at 3:15 am

    It seems that I am posting some time since the article was written, but it is the right time for us. Our youngest is 14 mo and she co-sleeps. She falls asleep by me holding her and her touching my breast. We have a toddler bed set up beside my side of the bed and she always starts the night out there and ends up with us eventually. I am wondering, if you introduced the crib at 1 yo and how that went? She has never slept in her crib and I have this fear that she is going to hate it because she is “caged” in. Any insight is greatly appreciated. I love our little one and have loved our time co-sleeping, but think it’s time to transition. :)

    1. Dawn


      Dec 9, 2015 at 12:23 pm

      Yes! Like you, our oldest literally had not slept a minute in her crib until she was one…but when it comes to crib vs. toddler bed, I have read that children actually prefer the closed in feel of the crib, they feel safer in…infact, we’ve kept all of ours in their crib until three or a little older (they can of course crawl out by this point, but that’s ok!). However, with that said, of course all babies are different and this is just what has worked for us :) (Our fourth and youngest is now 13 months and he likes to fall asleep the same way with his hand on me…he is our last so I am not rushing this transition and am cherishing every minute of it! :)

  • Brittney Hope

    Nov 24, 2015 at 5:30 pm

    I was just like you! Before I had my son I was steadfast about not bedsharing. The information about SIDS and accidental suffocation that is thrown at new parents makes it understandable why most new parents are against it. I will never forget when I decided to. My husband and I decided I would get up with my son in the middle of the night. I am much more patient when I am sleepy, plus he works very early. Well I would get up, go to the living room, change my tiny boy and desperately try to nurse him (I was learning how to breastfeed on top of it) and I would fall asleep on the couch with him. My husband hated that so I suggested we bring him in bed. He is almost four months old now and I love it. Sure laying down at 8:30 stinks some nights but I sleep so much better and to this day I think my husband has only woken up twice from the baby, and it was from my son nursing loudly. I’m not sure when I will transition him out of the bed, but I will certainly put the crib in our room. As for now I am enjoying feeling his sweet little cold feet on my belly every night :)

    1. Dawn


      Nov 24, 2015 at 6:20 pm

      Thanks for sharing Brittney! I’m always so glad to hear when moms do what is best for THEM :) It may be co-sleeping, it may not, but I hope every mom feels encouraged to do what is best for her! (and not worry about what everyone else will think :)

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  • Erin

    Aug 23, 2015 at 5:38 pm

    Hi Dawn, Thank you for your article. I wish I had read it yesterday. Like you, we never planned on co-sleeping. It evolved and I am very happy that we did it. Our son is now 14 months old and things have been getting more difficult. Now, it can take up to an hour to put him to sleep at night (he’s been starting in the crib ever since he became mobile). Then when he wakes up if he doesn’t go down easily we bring him into our bed. That worked for months. I am also still breastfeeding. But now sleeping with him has been getting troublesome….waking us up, tossing and turning, etc. My hubby and I decided we needed to transition. I didn’t know where to turn and after reading some of Dr. Ferber’s advice, I was convinced that we will never be successful at getting him to sleep in his crib all night unless he was able to actually fall asleep without us “helping” at all i.e.: back rubs. So last night we did the extending crying thing. It was torture. we would go in every ten minutes to “reassure” and lay him back down, but each time he’d sit up and scream. He cried for over an hour like this (with us coming in) . After the second round of doing this for almost an hour and a half I gave in and rubbed his back and stayed with him until he fell asleep (almost instantly). After 3 hours of sleep he was up again and we resumed the same thing. This time after an hour of this crying and us going in I completely lost it. Was hysterical. He fell asleep with me rocking him but would wake up when placed in crib and scream, even if I rubbed his back. Finally, he came back to bed with us. After reading your experience, I am a little hopeful, but wonder if maybe your daughter is more laid back. I will try what you did…..and forget about this crying nonsense. Oh, and I also tried laying down next to him, but he just screamed even harder. Leaving a baby to cry just doesn’t seem right and to see that you were able to transition successfully without doing that gives me hope!

    1. Dawn


      Aug 27, 2015 at 11:21 am

      Hi Erin, I’m so sorry to hear about your experience so far with transitioning your little one, I can just feel the stress in your message! Have you had any success? I think you are right that when they are left to cry too long they get really worked up and it is hard to settle them back in by rubbing their back or something like that. Instead they want to get out of the crib to be comforted (which is understandable), and don’t want to go back in because they don’t know what to expect. Because of that, we generally respond right away when we hear them wake up (but agin, because they were in our room, this was easy to do). Once they got accustomed to their new routine (in a couple weeks), if they would cry when we would put them down or in the night, we would let it go for up to 15 minutes, but this usually wasn’t screaming, just them getting settled in, and 95% of the time they would go to sleep on their own then. But in the end, this is just what has worked for us! Blessings for wisdom for your unique situation as you navigate this new territory…it isn’t easy, especially when you are running on little sleep!

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      May 9, 2016 at 5:25 pm

      Erin…I am curious if you’ve had any success and what steps you took? I’m in the same boat :(

  • Lindsey

    Jun 8, 2015 at 11:38 am

    Thanks for the article. I must say I will never understand why people find anything wrong with cosleeping. We are one of the only cultures that think it is problematic. We are so disconnected from our kids it’s very sad. Leaving babies to cry and waiting 15 mins to respond then we wonder why we are leading the world in mental health issues.

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  • Lina

    Apr 4, 2015 at 3:53 pm

    It feels good to find an article that doesn’t make you feel like a bad parent or a failure bcs you decide to co-sleep. I stopped reading these sleep training experts articles bcs of their patronising and judgemental undertones and bias and go with what feels right for us. Our little man is 8 weeks and we started co sleeping with him at 5 weeks when he had a bout of gas and bad tummy pains it was emotionally draining for us fighting to put an already suffering baby in Moses basket (bassinet) that he did not feel comfortable in. It works for us cos I can feed him whenever he needs and easily calm him by letting him know that we are there though he moves quite a lot I think he has the startle reflex but it’s a lot easier to deal with it when in our bed than getting up to go calm him whenever he’s startled. Thank you for this helpful and honest article and for passing judgement. Being a new mother is already hard without people judging you.

  • jessica hodges

    Mar 29, 2015 at 6:05 pm

    Thank you for this article! I have an 8 month old that started co-sleeping at 6 weeks, from moms exhaustion and breastfeeding ease. Like you said I have so enjoyed the snuggley bonding and will forever do it this way. I have been planning all along to start trying the crib at a year and truly stressing myself out thinking it would be a crazy battle and maybe I should start trying now. Your article has affirmed by mamas instinct of wanting a year (I’m not ready to let go :( and put her in her own bed). Thanks again!

    *Once tried co-sleeping just feels so natural, it’s hard to imagine any other way

  • Shanel

    Mar 26, 2015 at 12:55 am

    I love this! I am a mother of two, our oldest is 3 and co slept for just under two years. Our new baby is 8 months and we are looking to transition a lot sooner this time around. I nurse through the night and I just told my husband about the crib in the room idea–genius! Thanks for this story! I don’t think there’s anything wrong with co sleeping and when they’re so young, i actually sleep better knowing they are right with me. (My right shoulder might disagree though haha)

  • Tori

    Jan 27, 2015 at 6:05 pm

    I am sooooo happy to have found this! My daughter is 13 months and we have been cosleeping for most of her life. She was in a swing for awhile. I love having her in bed with us, especially since my husband works graveyard shifts, but we are going on a trip in May and leaving our baby with my in laws. I don’t think they’d appreciate a bunk buddy so I’ve been looking for ways to transition her to her crib. Thank you for sharing your experience and the tips you learned. We’re going to give it a try:)

  • violet giannone

    Jan 26, 2015 at 7:24 pm

    Here are some more helpful tips for crib transition. Good luck everyone!

  • Lisette

    Jan 4, 2015 at 3:41 am

    Our Lil guy just turned 1 on new years day, we are desperate to get him traditioned to his crib which I have set up next to our bed but hasn’t quite worked. I’ve tried letting him fall asleep in our bed first and then placing him in the crib- which sometimes worked but as soon as he realizes he’s in his crib it’s a cry fest. We tried walking him and he’d fall asleep but as soon as he’s in the crib he is up and cries again. He’s only ever lasted in his crib a good 5 hours 1 time. We are hardly sleeping cause he flops like a fish and kicks my husband all night or has to be touching me. I don’t want to let him cry and would love your method to work. I’ve been told not ‘talking’ and just touching then to sooth them to sleep is best but that only works a couple times before he noticed he’s not in our bed… Any ideas??

  • Sarah

    Dec 21, 2014 at 9:07 pm

    I’m going to have to try this after the Holidays (we’ll be traveling) with my 17 month old. He didn’t sleep more than 45 min at a time day or night in his crib. Being a full-time working mommy I needed more than 30-45 min of straight sleep every night, so I got desperate and pulled him into bed with us. He slept 5 hours straight from night 1! Well, I am now 12 weeks pregnant with #3 and he is getting wild in bed, so we’d like to transition him. He will not go to sleep in his crib at all, but I may do what you did and have my husband put him down. If I’m in there he still wants to nurse.

  • Jessica Ford

    Nov 13, 2014 at 3:41 am

    Thank you so much! My daughter is 15 months and im 23 weeks pregnant. my husband is ready to stop cosleeping so we have some time to ourselves before baby two gets here. I on the other hand would be fine sleeping with her in our bed for a few more years, I just sleep better with her close! I’ve been googling for weeks trying to prepare and finally came across this post!
    No hopefully Friday we can try the transition, although I have a feeling the baby and dad will take it easier than me!!

  • Kiersten

    Sep 17, 2014 at 12:44 am

    My daughter co sleeps with me and she reaches for me when I am not close to her. She also reaches and searches for the breast since I BF her. How would I transition her to sleep in crib and still feed her when she needs it and put her back to bed. How would I get her to sleep through the night and just pump and or feed her in the morning time. she is two months old. sometimes she feeds twice a night. others its random and she eats and sucks for comfort. right now she wont take a paci.

  • Whitney

    Feb 22, 2014 at 1:45 pm

    I’m co-sleeping, for the first time, with baby #5. Mostly because he started out with colic, and of the ease. I was dead set against it for the first 4 but now I LOVE it! My husband is ready for the transition, but I must agree that my little guy sleeps much better if he knows I’m around! Nap time is a whole other beast though! Thank you!! :)

  • shona

    Feb 19, 2014 at 10:31 pm

    Great article. I’m currently trying to transition my son at one year as he is too wriggly in bed now. I co sleep with my son because he has never settled on his own he’s an identical twin but lost his brother soon after birth so the closeness is comforting for him, and me also x

    1. Dawn


      Feb 21, 2014 at 2:00 pm

      I am so sorry for your loss, I can’t even begin to imagine…and I bet he did love all of the extra snuggle time with you…I’ll never retreat having any of our kids in bed with us…but like you said, there does come that point when they become a little too “active” :)

  • Verily Victoria Vocalises

    Feb 18, 2014 at 4:46 pm

    A really interesting and useful post – thank you for linking to PoCoLo x

  • Betsy @ Romance on a Dime

    Feb 17, 2014 at 4:50 am

    These are great tips!! I totally agree with you, especially on the respond immediately point – Amen!! We transitioned from co-sleeping to crib when he was 4 months. It just helped my husband sleep better. (Although, if it were totally up to me, I would do it longer – it’s easier). Thanks for linking up to Take it on Tuesday.

  • Antionette Blake

    Feb 17, 2014 at 2:21 am

    I remember that it seemed like forever to get our first one out of our bed because he had medical problems so when the 2nd one came along, I never even put him in our bed – lol Thank you for sharing and linking up with us at the #WWDParty. Have a great week.

  • Chelsey

    Feb 13, 2014 at 2:10 pm

    I’ve been reading a lot of articles that say babies not only sleep better, but the quality of sleep they get is also better if they’re co-sleeping. It’s a really normal thing in other countries. But then I thought of stories like the guy I worked with whose daughter is now 6 or 7 and STILL sleeps with them because she doesn’t want to be alone. Knowing that it IS possible to transition from co-sleeping to crib sleeping, though, is a relief! Thanks for sharing!

    1. Dawn


      Feb 13, 2014 at 2:15 pm

      Good Chelsey, that truly was my hope! While we loved having them in bed with us in the beginning, once we transitioned them out, we were extra diligent about not letting them back in when they were sick or just couldn’t sleep. I think it is important to be consistent, no matter what you do. That way kids don’t get confused…”So sometimes mommy and daddy let me in to their bed, but sometimes they don’t…if I just cry long enough…or ask enough…”

      It is NOT always easy…especially at night when you just want to sleep!

  • Patty

    Feb 11, 2014 at 4:10 pm

    We co-slept with our son for about a year, and I nursed or rocked him to sleep for most of that year. I used to take him for walks right after work, but one day I was later than usual getting out for our walk, it was almost dark. I put him in the stroller and walked my route, and he was fast asleep by the time I got home, and even stayed asleep so I put him to bed in his crib. After that, I pushed my walks back to that later time, and never had a problem. Like you, I responded right away when he woke up, but it was a pretty easy transition.

    My advice to a;; parents is do what feels most right to you – I was told by SO many people not to nurse or rock him to sleep, or lay down with him (we did that for a while when he was a little bit older) … they said ‘if you start, he’ll never be able to sleep without it’.

    Well, I’m now the mother of a well adjusted 21 year old, and I can guarantee you that he hasn’t needed me to rock him to sleep in many, many years, and I have wonderful memories of time with my son that passed far too quickly!

    1. Dawn


      Feb 11, 2014 at 4:22 pm

      Patty your response made me smile! I think overall, babies are quick learners…they learn that if momma always gives in when I do this, then they’ll go it…but they also seem to pick up quickly that “this is where I am sleeping now”, too :)

      Great encouragement, thank you!

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