So, I say to Derrick last night, “You know you irritate me sometimes. What can I do about that?”
Derrick said, “Get over yourself.”
He is so helpful.
So, I say, “What about sex.”
Derrick, “Yes, sex is helpful.”
Me: “How is it helpful?”
Derrick: “Sex solves everything.”
Me: “This conversation is irritating me. I am going to the bedroom to think.”
Derrick: “Woo, Hoo! I win.”
Me: “I am going to the bedroom to think not have sex.”
Derrick: “It might help you think.”
I thought about the topic of irritating husbands over the next few days and I must admit Derrick was right: sex is helpful. I noticed the more disconnected I am from Derrick the more irritating I find him.
Little irritants, such as throwing his clothes on the floor, become magnified if we are not spending quality time together. When Derrick takes me out for breakfast, I could care less about the clothes on the floor or the books piled up on the dresser.
Sundays are perhaps the day when I love Derrick the most because we spend the morning in bed drinking coffee, reading, and talking while the kids watch Sunday morning cartoons. It’s not that I don’t love him Monday through Saturday; it is just on Sunday we are able to sit back and enjoy each other. It helps me to remember why I married Derrick…even if he never picked up after himself, I still would have married him because he loves me… irritating habits and all.
The key to a great marriage is taking the time to connect with your partner and of course lots of sex ;)
If you want learn more about how to connect with your partner check out Jim’s post on Revitalizing your marriage: Cut this one thing out for a stronger marriage today and Simple changes for relational success: “Using the ‘F’ word”